Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a structured, research-based approach to helping couples improve their relationships, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Based on over four decades of studies on the behaviors of happy and unhappy couples, the Gottman Method aims to strengthen relationship bonds by enhancing communication, deepening emotional connection, and building a foundation of respect and understanding.

A key feature of the Gottman Method is its focus on building what the Gottmans call the “Sound Relationship House.” This includes components like nurturing shared fondness, managing conflict respectfully, creating shared meaning, and supporting each partner’s individual growth. In therapy, couples learn to identify and move beyond common relationship pitfalls (known as the "Four Horsemen": criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling) while practicing skills that foster positive interactions.

Through specific exercises and guided discussions, Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps partners understand one another’s needs more deeply, strengthen their friendship, and create lasting solutions to conflicts. With its emphasis on empathy, trust, and mutual support, the Gottman Method provides couples with practical tools to build a fulfilling, resilient relationship that can weather life’s inevitable challenges.